Part 2 of this 3 part series with Prof. Jayanthasri Balakrishnan is for the woman who is likely to be in the busiest stage of her life, taking big long term decisions about her life, lifestyle and parenting choices. In Part 1, i.e. episode 57, we examined questions pertaining to women in their 20s to 30s.
If you have'nt heard about the very popular Prof, Jayanthasri Balakrishnan, I am very happy for this podcast to introduce her and her thoughts to you!
We talk a lot about parenting and how a woman's role in parenting is a choice and how she should look it at responsibly. We move on to talking about time, using time especially and she shares 2 important tips to find more time in the 24 hours that we all have.
So, listen on..
What the New Indian Woman podcast is about
As you may already be aware, this podcast has 2 focus areas. One, We examine the challenges faced by today's Indian woman and propose ACTIONABLE strategies in the Indian context, on a wide variety of topics - right from identifying their passion to better productivity and parenting. Second, we meet women who chose to aspire or have a dream beyond their defined roles and facilitate sharing of what worked and what didn’t, for them. Today's episode falls in the second category.
And in the process, my aim is to help you, The New Indian woman, to realize your potential, chase your dreams and aspirations, utilize the wonderful opportunities available in today's world.
What's in this episode:
We start with the topic of being busy and using "busyness" as an excuse for just about surviving, trying to figure out all the important decisions to be made at this stage in life. Dr. Jayanthasri talks about how parenting is a responsibility where there is no proxy parenting, no part time parenting, no perfect parenting either. There is no charity about taking care of one's own child, there need not be a sense of sacrifice, because it is a choice.
The points covered include the importance of giving room for a child's independence despite all the arrogance and seemingly audacious behaviour from the child, due to the challenges of age. At the same time, she cautions us not to try to become your child's friend. She highlights the importance of listening to the child, even if you are not entertaining the same idea. She also explains the danger of us not taking this important responsibility seriously.
She says the sense of parenting cannot be changed with time, while the expressions change with time, over generations. She then explains to us about intuition and instinct and how parenting includes both.
Prof. Jayanthasri then goes on to talk about this notion of sacrificing for one's children and she says people who talk about sacrifice are people who cannot come out of a sense of selfpity. A mother will be a better mother if she stops talking about sacrifice, because any way she is wired that way.
She then goes on to explain her concept of time - not about creating or managing time, but using time, valuing time. And then she shares 2 tips for making best use of one's time.
She then narrates an incident in her life and how she should have forgotten and forgiven her son for something he had said many years ago, but she is unable to. And how she had to be clear on what to focus upon.
She shares her philosophy about using time very carefully, a philosophy that has not changed in the last 20 years!
Don’t' you want to know it ?
I wish I had the opportunity to listen to her talks when I was in this life stage! But then, I realize there are learnings for me that I can apply to my life, now! So, do give this episode a listen.
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